I work with many individuals who come to me because the don’t know what their passion or purpose is. They report feeling “stuck” or “lost” in their careers, jobs and lives resulting in feeling uninspired and unfulfilled and turning to unhealthy ways to cope. So how do we find our purpose or our passion? Would you believe me if I told you that you already have that answer, you just haven’t learned how to tap into it. Through the course of our lives we have experiences and receive messages from all kinds of people that shape the belief we hold about ourselves. For some of us, this can get in the way of learning how to listen to our hearts. Here are a some steps and questions that you can ask yourself that will help you discover your purpose and passion, and to live the life you were meant to live.
1. Do What You Love
If you love what you do, you will not only be great at it, thus likely be successful, but you will also never see work as work, but life itself. Think about it, you spend roughly three-quarters of your waking hours—at least five days a week involved with your work. If you don’t like what you do, you are living most of your life in pain and misery. This is no way to live. To really live, spend your life loving what you do.
Remember: Every business, job, productive project, relationship, etc. will have its difficulties and unpleasant aspects. Following through and overcoming those challenges is where much of the feeling of accomplishment comes from in your life. Yet, overall, you are exhilarated and fulfilled by your work and relationships.
Consider these questions to help you discover what you love….
If you had all the money you ever needed and had already vacationed, traveled everywhere you wanted to go and were back home with nothing to do, what would you do now? What would you do, if only for the fun and feeling of self-worth it would provide?
If you could trade professional places with anybody you know or have ever witnessed, who would it be? Why? What aspect of their job, business or job function appeals to you most? What other businesses have those same aspects?
When have you felt most alive, most accomplished and most satisfied in life? What were you doing? What about it gave you those feelings?
If you already know what you love but haven’t followed through on make it a reality, ask yourself why? what am I afraid of? Is your past conditioning getting in the way?
2. Do What’s You
Two very important questions to think about are: Who am I and, more importantly, who do I want to become? To feel spiritually and energetically inspired by your work and life, it will need to align with your core values, self-image and character.
Consider these questions to help you discover who you are….
What are your core values in life? How would you describe yourself and your character? How do you wish others would describe you and your character?
Be sure the professional path you choose aligns with those descriptions. In fact, every decision you make in your life should align with your core values. I have found that when people are unhappy and unfulfilled in any arena of their life it’s because they are out of line with their values. Core values play a HUGE part in finding your passion.
3. Do What’s Easy
Your true path in life is the path of least resistance for you. If you want to discover your unique purpose in life, figure out what you are uniquely good at and what comes easy to you. If it’s hard for you or if you are not very good at something, that’s probably not what you were meant to do.
Here is one of the greatest challenge for most of us. We have ended up in jobs, careers or businesses OTHERS have thought best for us. Those others could be parents, teachers, counselors, peers, societal ideals, etc. Few of us have followed our own path in life, guided by our strengths. It’s time to take back control of your life and get in touch with your unique potential.
Consider the questions to help you discover your strengths….
What comes easy to you? What do many people have difficulty doing, but you find easy? What advice or assistance do people tend to ask you for? If you were in a line of 20 people, shoulder to shoulder, what do you probably do better than most of the 19 others? What unique skill, insight, intuition or knowledge base do you have that most don’t?
The answers to those questions will reveal your unique advantage in life, and probably what you were designed to do.
Spend some quality time by yourself to answer each question thoughtfully and honestly. If your finding this difficult you may need to dedicate some time to exploring what experiences or messages you are holding onto that are clouding your ability to uncover the answers. A therapist can be extremely helpful in guiding you to uncover the answers and shift your thought process so you can get our and live the life you were meant to live!